Harmonizing.

Free dating sites are, just that, free. And you get what you pay for. (See creepy mug shot man below.) When I was first divorced I took a year on sort of a "honeymoon with myself" and then tried eHarmony. I wasn't ready. This is a site built for relationships. For people that weren't still getting over a long marriage that ended (even though I ended it and it's the best decision I think I've ever made.) And so, it was really a waste of a $100. Well, they ran a special and lord knows I love a bargain. So, I'm giving it a shot. This will probably not result in solving the immediate "who WILL I go with to the Dodgeball event", but will probably result in some more interesting dates. As my best friend reminded me today - I probably only have time to go on a couple of first dates a month. So, here's my MUST HAVES and CAN'T STANDS. I'm wondering if I should take this list to a therapist.....because I'm reading some stuff into it.

MUST HAVE

Intellect...
I must have a partner who is bright and can share my understanding of the world as well as enjoy discussing important issues.
Sense of Humor...
I must have someone who is sharp and can enjoy the humorous side of life.
Emotionally Healthy...
I must have a partner who is emotionally healthy, and able to share a stable life with someone else.
Industriousness...
I must have someone who is willing to work hard at whatever they do.
Passionate...
I must have someone who is willing to explore our sexual desires with passion and understanding.
Loyal...
I must have someone I can count on to always support me.
Responsible...
My partner must be financially responsible.
Curiosity...
I must have a partner who is hungry for new information and knowledge and who strives to learn as much as possible.
Affectionate...
I must have someone who is comfortable giving and receiving affection.
Chemistry...
I must feel deeply in love with and attracted to my partner.

CAN'T STAND

Lying...
I can't stand someone who lies to anyone-especially to me.
Dependence...
I can't stand someone who bases their happiness on me.
Punctuality...
I can't stand someone who is always late.
Cheating...
I can't stand someone who takes advantage of people.
Undependable...
I can't stand someone who fails to come through and is unreliable.
Lazy...
I can't stand someone who likes to spend excessive time sleeping, resting or being a "couch potato."
Depressed...
I can't stand someone who is constantly unhappy about their life.
Pessimism...
I can't stand someone who always sees the glass as half empty.
Unhappy at Work...
I can't stand someone who hates their job and complains about it all the time.
Victim Mentality...
While everyone has times of self-pity, I can't stand someone who continually sees himself/herself as a victim.