I'm not that fascinating. But, my parents raised me to be polite. And, they gave me the conversational tools to make any conversation, with any person, an interesting one. It's not hard. And after a few dates post-Mr. Tater Tot I decide I've come up with, what I think is, a great strategy for first date conversation. I figure I've done it casually on previous dates, but I'll be more structured on this one. We'll call the test subject The Guy.
Goes a little something like this.
The Guy: So, I work at Company X, doing Job B and in my spare time I like to do 1, 2 and 3.
Me: Wow, that sounds interesting, tell me more about 2. (Because I'm not some money-grubbing gold digger who is only interested in X or B).
Guy: Talks on and on about 2 with some occasional glimpses into 15 and 16 (that which should be hidden for many more dates).
Me: "Mmmmhmmm." "Wow." "Sounds interesting." Peppered with a few "You don't say."
Guy: And you? It sounds like you're interested in 2 as well, tell me more.
Me: Not sure I like any of it, but we're on a first date so I find some way to wind 2 into some quippy little story that's always good for a laugh. If his #2 is hiking - I tell the story about my brother kicking a wasps nest; biking - my mom and I in some casual mountain bike race; his kids - nothing, because I don't talk about my kids on a first date. The Guy's #2 was Dave Matthews - quippy story about my brother and I going to a concert.
More about The Guy, now known as Mr. Hey-Can-I-Stalk-You-Online and the reason that I now avoid this strategy altogether next time.
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